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Marrying All Over Again

We think we only marry one mate, but the fact is we all marry a number of people because our mates keep changing, and we have to adjust to these changes and learn to love a different person than the one we married. Through the years all mates change, and sometimes it can be hard to adjust, for your mate may not be the person now that you expected them to be for life. You have to fall in love again with a new person. Those who cannot adjust to changes in their mate often get divorced. All couples go through what is called divorce periods where they are in the process of deciding if they love the new and different people they have become. This is where love is again the power that keeps them together. If love is allowed to fade, and there is no effort to rekindle the flame of passion, there is a danger that they will part. Those who make it through these periods do so because they work at rekindling the flame. Those who neglect love and just drift tend to drift apart completely. Divorce is a refusal to remarry the new person your mate has become. Long-range marriage is a commitment to keep on marrying the mate you have no matter how often they change.

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Wider wedding welcome for couples as the Church of England names the day

Thousands of couples dreaming of a wedding will find more churches to choose from 1st October 2008 the day when the new Church of England Marriage Measure comes into effect.

It means that the Church of England’s network of 16,000 churches - ancient or modern, intimate or grand, simple or spectacular - can offer a wider wedding welcome than at any time in the Church’s history.

The Marriage Measure completed its parliamentary process last month. That has made it possible for the Bishops to issue the official guidance to clergy on how the new rules will work, which has been published on the Church of England website today. It means couples planning a wedding for this autumn will be able to make plans now, knowing that the new legislation will be in force. It also gives clergy a few months in order to find out exactly how the changes will take effect.

Existing law establishes a right for a couple to marry in the Church of England in the parish church where one or both of them live, whether they are baptised or not, and whether they are churchgoers are not. To marry in any other parish requires a special licence or six months of regular attendance followed by entry on the local church electoral roll. 

But new laws, initiated by the Church of England and now approved by Parliament, will add to this right of residency, making it just as easy for couples to marry in a church where they have a family or other special connection, even if they don’t live there.

The General Synod decided that the existing laws were too restrictive in a mobile society and took the initiative to change them last July. Synod wanted churches all over England to be free to celebrate more weddings and support more marriages.

The changes will mean an engaged couple are welcome to be married in church in a parish if just one of these applies:

  • one of them was baptised or prepared for confirmation in the parish;
  • one of them has ever lived in the parish for six months or more;
  • one of them has at any time regularly attended public worship in the parish for six months or more;
  • one of their parents has lived in the parish for six months or more in their child’s lifetime;
  • one of their parents has regularly attended public worship there for six months or more in their child’s lifetime;
  • their parents or grandparents were married in the parish.

(All of these refer to Church of England services)

Chris Varnom and Emma Price are just one couple who have been watching closely when the new law will take effect. They live in High Wycombe but plan to marry 200 miles away at Christ Church Ainsworth in Bolton, where Chris grew up and where his parents were married and still live. Emma said: “Because we haven’t lived in High Wycombe for long, home – his or mine – was always where we wanted to marry. But because the church and the community are such an important part of Chris’s story, we can’t imagine marrying anywhere else. It’s just fantastic news that now we can do that more easily.”

The Bishop of St Edmundsbury and Ipswich, the Rt Revd Nigel Stock, who was a member of the group that steered the Marriage Measure through the General Synod, welcomed the news that couples and churches could begin to put new plans in place for a wedding after 1st October: “Once the new Measure comes into effect I really do hope that we will be welcoming many more people for marriage in Church. It is already our privilege to celebrate the weddings of 57,000 couples every year and of course, welcome their guests to the occasion. Research does show that many more people would like to marry in church than actually do. I hope that this new law will make it much easier for clergy to say “yes” to couples when they first enquire.”

Simon Hughes MP, speaking in a House of Commons Committee in support of the Marriage Measure, said: “In an age when we bemoan the loss of community, the consequences of greater globalisation and the greater difficulty that people have in maintaining roots back to the places that they come from…more people will be likely to get married in churches, because they will be able to marry in those that they think are important and valuable. That will be a good thing for the Church, for couples and for their families, who will feel more involved in the process.”

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St.Mary's Church, Shepherds Lane, Red Lake, Ketley, Shropshire.